Don't Be Her! 

I work in Customer Service. I am the face of a premium brand, and I work in a flagship store. So you can imagine the number of people I meet on a daily basis.

I’ve met and conversed with A LOT of people. Strangely enough, I began to feel as though I’ve got an invisible marker only outsiders can see; marking my forehead stating ‘TRUST ME WITH YOUR TROUBLES.’ One of many people will always stand out for me – women.

I’ve met so many different kinds of women; women I wish NOT to be like, but even I know me and my many demons carry the traits of these many women.


Insecurities. Tiny voices that whisper sweet venom into your ears. The worse concoction made is a woman with insecurities. The tiny whispers turn to roars, they take over a person’s every thought, every meaning to life. It’s visible, in ones speech, in ones opinions, in ones actions, in ones posture, in ones appearance. Every aspect of your life is run accordingly to your insecurities. It is your life’s motive to keep filling the hole, in order to survive. To you its survival, to give in to your insecurities as they take over your existence. To me, I see a girl who thinks she’s too weak. You determine whether you want to stomp onto a battlefield with your insecurities and see who wins the war.

– Love the girl in the mirror. She’s your best friend.


I call them greedy, because all I see is a person who can’t stop consuming everything around them, especially self consuming. Everyone else would probably call them attention seekers. These pretty little bombs, make the loudest noise in the room. Of course, consuming all the energy in the room, everything must be about them alone. Pity stories, weak excuses and the traditional lies to defend themselves. They can get to you so easily because they know how to move you with their emotions. Although the start to every storm is her doing, it’s a breeze getting out of the consequences because she knows her way around people and because of that she will always have leverage to bite you where it hurts. If you like to be the clown in the room with your crazy hair and red nose, run your parade girl.

The strongest person in the room is usually the quietest.


The girl who always has a boyfriend. This insecurity hole is deep, it has to be filled because you fear that otherwise, the door to loneliness will open. You fear loneliness, to such a great extent that you will settle for a person who isn’t even worth the time of day. You will suffer abuse silently, and defend a person who feeds off your insecurities. Toys with them, and you allow it. The girl who is defined by her relationship; a conversation can only be run if it’s about it.   While you might always want to feel loved, I see a girl whose too afraid to love herself enough first.

Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.

☆4. QUEEN.

While many see her as the girl that burns cities, and has the dirtiest secrets in her purse. I see her as the girl whose burnt her enemies to the ground in that city, and a purse full of wisdom. Just because a girl knows how to answer a question right, it doesn’t make her cocky. If she doesn’t respond to a flirtation remark because she has standards and refuses to settle it doesn’t make her stuck up. Just because you’re well kept and like to look good, it doesn’t mean you’re materialistic. It just means you own the pavements you walk on. You feel inspired in their presence, and they leave a strong trail of strength behind them. While others may see her as a person who has an attitude that has a horrible stench. A girl who cares for nobody but herself and will hurt anybody to reach her goals. There’s strength in her walk, that’s why her feet won’t ever chase a person. If you pop and you know how to carry yourself without attacking the world around you, you’ve already won.

The queen will always conquer.

Love, Always

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  1. October 12, 2015 / 9:17 pm

    I do enjoy your writing. I will share this with a friend who will really appreciate it..Keep up the good stuff–john

    • October 12, 2015 / 9:21 pm

      Thank you simply much John, let me know what she thinks! I’ve missed witting so much!

      • October 12, 2015 / 9:26 pm

        Well, keep it up–you are very good at it.

  2. October 12, 2015 / 10:49 pm

    This one is so true – The strongest person in the room is usually the quietest.

  3. October 13, 2015 / 7:48 am

    Very well written. Exactly spoke the words out of mouth of a girl. I reckon, that yes, sometimes we are insecure but the things that makes us bold is the shyness, the confidence and the ability to speak for ourselves.

  4. Marcus Mustafa ibn Levi
    October 13, 2015 / 9:29 am

    AL-hamdulillah rabbil alamin ta’ala. I enjoyed reading your post. You have talent. I encourage you to continue writing, because it can become very therapeutic for you. I anticipate more writing from you. Until then, keep that girl in the mirror on point.

  5. October 14, 2015 / 3:05 am

    The many faces that define a woman….Sometimes we can be all or some of the women you described until we are comfortable with the definition that we give ourselves.

  6. October 23, 2015 / 11:11 pm

    If we dont love who we one will

  7. October 29, 2015 / 9:47 pm

    Hiya Queen, do check out my blog posts on the three day quote challenge, I nominated you on day two. Cheerio.

  8. November 23, 2015 / 3:37 pm

    I’m in love with your blog 😍 so, I guess, your thoughts ❤️

  9. July 26, 2016 / 4:38 pm

    You have an amazing talent with writing. There are really different types of personas, not only women. You don’t know who you’ll be able to meet… It’s a crazy world. Even more crazy for people like you in the customer relations industry. I’m kind of not good with people according to my mom… because of my temper. Lol. So I give you lots of praise for what you do!

    There’s More to Mica //

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