You've Got You! 

The biggest problem with having a good heart is, you expect each person in your little world to have the same heart as you.

The biggest problem with expecting is, you come to meet with a lot of disappointment.

The biggest problem with disappointment is, your soul gets damaged because of it.

The solution to all three problems are – rely on yourself, alone.

We spend our lives trying to discover home in other people. What we fail to understand is our own skeleton is the structure we’ll ever really need. There is not another person in this universe who is able to hold you straight, like your spine does for you so securely.

Knowing this, I still found myself relying on others in times of aid, relying on others support during times of need, relying on others advice to get me through a hurdle. I only learnt my lesson when I figured out, not every ear cares for my dreams, my sorrows nor my troubles. While I unburden my weaknesses to the ears of people who don’t care, they’re just waiting for an opportunity to use them against me.

When you share your weaknesses with another, you run the risk of not knowing whether that person has your best interest at heart, or if that person smells blood. You’re giving another being the power to take you down whenever they want. – Oh no honey. 

We live amongst people who’ll smile at your face, and then laugh at your tears. When you see a person for who they really are, don’t cower in a corner, shy away and pretend to be friends with them; get back on your horse and remind them of how fierce you really are.

If you’re thinking, how does one distinguish the difference between one who smells blood and one who does have your best interest at heart?

Well, you can only hide trash long enough before you smell the stench. True colours are always revealed, it’s just a matter of time.

THEY DONT WANT YOU TO WIN. THEY DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR DIFFICULTIES.

DJ Khaled.

Sometimes, it okay not to know what to do. Its okay to be confused, and not know where life is taking you. It is okay to feel pain, and go through a whirlpool of suffering. It is okay for your heart to hurt. Most importantly, it is always okay to cry. I feel at ease knowing that whenever I do go through any of those things, I am responsible for myself. No matter how dark the hole I fall into is, no matter how big or how deep it goes. I know, I can climb out of the darkness.



Relying on others as a source for my happiness only bought further failures to my feet. I won’t ever let another person make a decision for me, tell me how I am supposed to feel, or what they think I should do with my problems. I can do that all by myself.

Nobody has to agree with me, you have to trust yourself, listen to YOU. MY decisions are reasoned and everything that I think is right.

“you don’t have to worry about burning bridges, if you’re building your own” 

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Love, Always

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24 Comments

  1. February 24, 2016 / 8:57 pm

    Couldn’t agree more. That happens to me as well. I judge the world through “me”. And most of the time , it hits me hard.

    • February 24, 2016 / 9:01 pm

      After a while you get tired of all the disappointment and learn to move on from it all..

      I hope you reach that point one day TM

      Thank you for reading ❤️

  2. February 24, 2016 / 9:10 pm

    In you post!
    There was a movie called: “With honors”.
    The scene is where the bum and Harvard (the college students the bum calls Harvard!).
    Says to Harvard:”You have to trust people Harvard! “You just can’t trust the warranty!”

    There is another TV preacher who said it best:”We all face battles in our life!” “But! It is important to pick & choose which battles are worth fighting for!”

    People take their licks out there!
    Some know how to take it!
    Some don’t!

    YES! We are left to fend for ourselves!
    But! If you look at my posts called: “the life & times of a semi-Batchelor!
    If you still think you are your own?
    Think again!!!!!!

    • February 24, 2016 / 9:17 pm

      If you got the idea that I’m alone from reading my post, then you’ve taken it a light different to which I intended to shed..

      My message was rely on yourself before you think to rely on another. It avoids disappointment..

      I do love what Harvey had to say about trust though 🙂

      Thank you for passing and having a read 🙂

  3. February 25, 2016 / 2:16 am

    I totally agree with this post and this is something I’m learning. I’m very sensitive and naive and I always expect people to be there. I’ll pour my heart out to them and suddenly their gone and don’t care. It’s really sad but it has made me realize that I was relying on people to help me rather than relying on myself and God. It’s a good life lesson…you are absolutely gorgeous by the way, beautiful picture 😉

    • February 25, 2016 / 2:21 am

      We give people more chances than they are worthy of sometimes.. It is sad Chelsea, but you will come to a point in life where being let down all the time is just not enough for you anymore. You will see what you are worth as a person, and God willing, will only associate yourself with those who recognise your worth too!

      Thank you so much for reading ❤️

      • February 25, 2016 / 2:23 am

        NM!

        We all! Have worth!
        It’s just there are some out there!
        Who want to cover it up.
        Because! Of what they went/ae going through!

        • February 25, 2016 / 2:25 am

          Be confident in your own skin. You don’t have to be ashamed of the struggles you’ve been through. Show the world your scars so they can learn to appreciate people who are/went though difficulty!

          You have to know your own wrote to be strong enough not to cover yourself up.

  4. ruthseavers
    February 25, 2016 / 9:20 pm

    “While I unburden my weaknesses to the ears of people who don’t care, they’re just waiting for an opportunity to use them against me.”
    This rang so true to me. You’re eloquent in your words. I couldn’t find an about section I wanted to find more about you, like where you’re from and how old you are. You remind me of me in your writing.

    • February 25, 2016 / 9:24 pm

      Hey Ruth!

      Thank you for reading! I appreciate it so much.

      Reading your writing now is a must! Even before I start, I know I’ll be looking for parts of me in it!

      Lazy old me, I’m yet to do an about me section! I am hoping to put some videos out soon though.. Is something you’d watch?

      Love, Always ❤️

      • ruthseavers
        February 25, 2016 / 10:26 pm

        Thank you 🙂 You’re actually in perfect timing I just posted a blog that was about my teenage years sort of – it’s a personal essay of sorts. Would be the best insight to me anyway! If you want to have a look 🙂
        Yeah I would!
        xx

  5. February 26, 2016 / 3:43 am

    I love this one. I can totally relate. i agree completely

    • March 1, 2016 / 7:35 pm

      Thank you so much X

  6. February 26, 2016 / 8:42 am

    I just can’t stop being a fan! 😍😍😍😍

    • March 1, 2016 / 7:35 pm

      Thank youuuu!!! Xxx

  7. February 26, 2016 / 2:50 pm

    NM!

    I do find you interesting!
    A soft, gentle heart that does nee caring.

    I think the reason many women get hurt is.
    they do think with their heart.
    Not with their mind.

    I currently!
    Not in any relationship!
    I would love o talk to you and see where it develops???

  8. March 24, 2016 / 8:06 pm

    Great post! I love how you write! I can’t wait to read more from you. By the way you are stunning!

    • March 24, 2016 / 8:08 pm

      Thank you so much ❤️

  9. March 25, 2016 / 10:07 pm

    Beautifully written and so true! I struggle with this often looking to others for support and advice. I want to learn how to stand confidently on my own and rely on myself. Thanks for writing this. It is truly inspiring <3

  10. July 18, 2017 / 1:54 am

    I agree I am a sensitive soul so when someone is not there for me and I have been there for them it does hurt. I think you are right in saying we need to have faith in ourselves rather than others x

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