The Lazy Girls Guide To: New Years Resolutions

Dearest Readers

Welcome to the year of NmDiaries!

I am speaking out my goals into existence so that the Universe can hear them, grasp them, and conspire to make them happen.

Like my old pal Paul Cohello says:

And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

My sisters friends are my most loyal readers & without even knowing them as well as my sister does they all support my blog to its end. Its so overwhelming to know there are real people out there reading my work and waiting for the next post. One of her friends Marya asked if I was going to release a post on New Years Resolutions & I can’t believe I hadn’t thought of writing one up myself!

I know why I haven’t – because I am lazy and I am not the best person on the world wide web to help you with keeping New Years Resolutions especially since most of them are usually about losing weight, or going to the gym, or starting a fitness plan etc. These are things I absolutely cannot stick to so don’t even attempt it.

I have an eating disorder (which you can read about here) so losing weight is a daily battle for me. You can probably understand why fitness and weight loss isn’t on the top of my list of resolutions since I’ve pretty much nailed how to control my weight through starvation & purging.

For me, resolutions mark the beginning of the end. They make me want to start the year in a fresh way but at the same time I don’t believe in setting goals that I know I will not keep. What’s the point in making myself feel like a failure by the end of the year? I’ll take the lazy route and focus on the growth of mind instead. My spiritual growth. The growth of my inner Goddess.

Let’s get the ball rolling with:


Problem: The way that I see myself is a problem. The way I feel about myself is a problem. I tend to focus how not to make mistakes in my life rather than focus on my own growth. I have a problem with thinking to much about the negative outcomes of an opportunity rather than think of all the things that can come from it. I talk myself out of most of the good things in my life rather than talk my self into continuing them. MY eating disorder contributes to this as I can bring myself to believe I don’t deserve the food that I know my body needs but we’re not here to talk about that today. What we are here to talk about is how my self esteem is a result of my reluctance to expect a little out of life for myself. Sometimes I think it’s wrong to want to be successful and want so many things for myself. I think it’s pretty safe to say that I am my biggest enemy. I don’t do myself any favours at all.

Plan Of Action: The first thing I need to learn to do is to avoid negative self talk. I can talk myself down a lot. I know I can be quite harsh on myself; my older sister often reminds me how hard I can really be on myself. This is something that I need to rein in. I need to give myself a break – I am a human not a machine. I produce emotions not work. It is impossible for me to take on the entire universe worth of work and not have any help. Most times I am under the impression that I must be self reliant because the whole world is against me and nobody wants to help. These poisonous thoughts will drive me to oblivion one day so I am attempting to train these thoughts so that I can grow some of my own self esteem.


Problem: Whenever I tell someone I lack confidence they laugh at me and try to tell me otherwise. I can be quite loud when I am comfortable around you. I can be quite blunt when I care about you. I don’t find myself funny but I am known to have a unique sense of humour. Because of this people think that I am full to the brim with confidence but I honestly am not. I am the shyest person I know – the thought of getting up on stage in front of a handful of people to perform scares the living daylight outs of me. I was never any good at giving presentations at University and whenever I am nervous you can physically hear my voice shake. Its a horrible horrible HORRIBLE feeling but this year I am ready to overcome that.

Plan Of Action: The word confidence derives from the Latin word trust. What confidence really means is to have trust in oneself and that is what I lack. I don’t trust myself. I started going to poetry events last year – open mic nights where poets would get up on stage and perform to a room full of the most supportive crowds I have ever seen. I have decided that I am going to get up on that stage and perform my poems to the room. This is going to be a massive struggle for me as the thought of getting up in front of people makes me physically sick. I know that the first time I do it I’ll be unstoppable after that. I have to get the first time out of the way in order build my confidence. I don’t know if i’ll be fine on stage or whether i’ll lose my voice I have never experienced it before in my life & I have to in order to find out if its for me or not! Not only will this help me expose my poetry but it’ll also help me with networking with other poets which is my biggest goal of 2018 really.


Problem: My mind is constantly in overdrive. Similarly to how my body was in constant hunger mode during my teens. I used to feed my hunger food back then which seemed like a pretty easy solution to my problem. With my mind however, with how delicate and fragile it really is – there is no easy route to fix it. There isn’t a button I can press at the centre of my forehead that will stop my thoughts. They just keep going and going and going and towards the end of the day I have a pulsing nerve on the side of head.

Plan Of Action: One of my managers is really in yoga. He does 45 minutes worth every single morning and swears by the difference it makes to his life. He has sworn by the entire lifestyle change starting yoga has given him and I have tried getting into it myself ever since. I haven’t been able to focus on the exercise side of things but I have grown a liking to the meditating side of yoga. The breathing exercises. One of my favourite things to do is to close my eyes and to focus on my breathing for at least 5 minutes until it becomes consistent. I then look at myself from bird eye view and drift further and further into space watching myself turn into a tiny dot. This helps me to realise how small my problems are and how small I really am. Anything and everything can get solved if I put my mind to it because there is an entire universe out there that is bigger than me and my problems.


Problem: I am a very aloof person. I can be quite distant and reserved. I can come across as cold and intimidating but I am honestly a nice person. Well, I like to think of myself as a nice person anyway. Moving forward – because of this nature of mine I can be quite hot and cold with the people in my life especially my friends! My god, I see my friends here and there throughout the year. I barely reply to any of their messages because I am absolutely SHIT with my phone. Sometimes I cancel plans sometimes I lie about having other plans just so I can stay in bed. I don’t want to bother anyone with my company and also don’t want to be bothered by others.

Plan Of Action: It’s great that I enjoy and appreciate my own company so much – I mean there are many girls who aren’t able to spend days on end with just themselves. What is greater than this is maintaining a stable relationship with the people who love you. I spent a lot of time with my two sisters towards the end of last year and it was really really awesome. We haven’t always been close, I mean me and my younger sister and had fist fights before now spending time with my siblings feel like golden hours to me. Time I will never ever get back – memories we will laugh over in years and years to come. We were only able to do so much last year together because I finally got out of my room and decided to. Other than this – I very rarely see my best friend Samiya. We had decided to see each other at least once a month and I am trying to stick to that religiously this year. We used to see each other every single ash when we were at school and now that we both work full time our hectic lifestyles rarely allows us to spend quality time together. Her birthday very recently passed and I only realised how little tome we really spend together through the lack of photos we have of ourselves over the years! 2018 is the year of photos Samiya! Prepare yourself!

6Problem: Belief in myself is a rocky ship. There are times where I will believe the moons and the starts are in the palm of my own hands and I am able to conquer the world if that’s what I wanted. Then there are times where I feel like I will never accomplish anything in this world, I am a complete and utter failure and that I have no real purpose in this world. I don’t believe in my writing, I am scared about sharing it in case it isn’t liked or understood. My self morale is very low and this is something a lot of people who actually know who I am as a person can’t understand. I am confident and believe in everyone else but I lack that belief when it comes to myself so much. I don’t think I’m amazing or made out of gold dust, I don’t even think I’m very much liked most of the time and that stops me from doing a lot of thing.

Plan Of Action: This problem of mine is rooted into my veins. I have been bought up to care more about what others think. It has been ingrained in me to believe the opinions of others over my own. I will only learn to stop doubting myself when I block all the other peoples voices in my head and focus on my own voice. Growing up I have taken the voices of people who were important to me and I criticize myself in their sharp tones and compare myself to others just like they used to do to me. My expectation of myself has been molded over the years by others expectations of me and the lines between what I want for myself and what others want for me have been blurred. To change this I have to change my mindset and only then will I see a change in my thoughts and behaviour.



Problem: I am extremely passionate about my craft. Now this isn’t the problem – everyone should be passionate about something. My problem is taking my craft to the next level. MY blog & my Instagram have been a hobby for me which has helped my mental sanity for almost 3 years. For these three years however my blog has not had any real direction & I have used it as a platform to document my thoughts, my feelings, and my whereabouts. Last year however I took a huge step and published the biggest secret I have carried around in my heart for 10 years. I wrote about my eating disorder & I it dawned on me that that was what I wanted to use my platform for. I wanted to speak loud and proudly about my eating disorder so my fellow sisters in the South Asian community can feel like they have someone they can relate to. That there is someone out there going through what they are. I have expressed this in the post I wrote itself but I will mention it here too – When searching and reading on Eating Disorders the disorder will always be represented by a stereotypical white girl from a middle class background who is painfully thin. I could never relate to these girls growing up. In my community mental health in itself is a taboo subject – girls from our communities are pristine and perfect – to let people know they suffer from a mental disorder means they are flawed and nobody wants that. That’s the change I wish to make with my platform.

Action Of Plan. I will be posting a blogpost relating to mental health or my eating disorder at least once a month. It should be a continuous theme throughout my blog. People should know and be aware of what I stand for, what I believe in. To do this I need to remain consistent with posting but at the same time need to avoid drowning in too much work as I work a full time job Monday-Saturday. Since creating NmDiaries I have posted and given my blog time as and when it wanted to. This year I am treating my blog like a second full time job. After I finish my first shift at 5:30PM I am starting my second shift at NmDiaries at 6pm. I have to invest my time, my focus, my energy, my love, my everything into this if I want the result I am really after.


What are your thoughts on New Years Resolutions? If you keep any I would love to know some of your New Years Resolutions?

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  1. January 6, 2018 / 6:28 pm

    I rarely ever make resolutions because I’m lazy as well, haha. But, so much love to you and I hope your new resolutions go great in 2018!

    Marriah Tarango

  2. Laurence
    January 6, 2018 / 7:58 pm

    NIce post. I’m avoiding negative self talk. As I need to love myself, but sometimes it still happens. But I will not this year. I’m aloof too to some people, but I think I will never change, I tried, but I went back to being introvert…haha. Let’s be positive!

  3. January 6, 2018 / 8:29 pm

    what a great read, your true to your self and honest about how you feel because it really does help others out there who suffer with many issues. A lot of us lack in confidence or have something on our minds and we don’t speak about it. Your an inspiration to others, have a fantastic 2018 x

  4. January 6, 2018 / 9:02 pm

    I rarely make resolutions as I never seem to achieve them and it just makes me feel bad about myself so avoid this and make smaller goals throughout the year and this seems to work better! (plus Im lazy!) Best of luck and love the art work.

  5. January 6, 2018 / 9:58 pm

    The way that you have structured and thought about this was amazing – to come up with a plan of action for things you want to do this year is a great way of looking at “resolutions”. I also love the artwork you came up with for each point.

    • NM
      January 7, 2018 / 9:14 am

      Thank you so much Tori 🌻

  6. January 7, 2018 / 12:04 am

    I love how you set up your goals and then the action plan as well! So many people have dreams, but they never chase them. Usually either because they have no courage, but usually they forget that they need to do something to change the situation. Happy 2018! 🙂

    • NM
      January 7, 2018 / 9:15 am

      Thank you so much! Here to a year of courage ❤️

  7. Jasmin N
    January 7, 2018 / 12:08 am

    We ourselves are our worst enemies. Don’t be too harsh on yourself & take all the time you need to recover from everything. I think focusing on your art might help you with that all 🙂 I wish you all the best for 2018!

  8. January 7, 2018 / 12:15 am

    I’ve enjoyed very much in this reading. I didn’t write resolutions before I think ( LOL). Negativity is very powerful and I’m a big optimist but sometimes even I can’t see something positive. Every here and then, we all find over self in a dose of the negativity, but we all have our ways to get rid off it 😉

  9. January 7, 2018 / 1:12 am

    Introverts unite. lol I am like the same person as you are like the way you describe yourself. Will also work on those points you mentioned because I need it this year, confident could take you somewhere amazing.

    • NM
      January 7, 2018 / 9:15 am

      We all need one massive sleepover in an abandoned warehouse somewhere where nobody can get to us for a few weeks!

  10. January 7, 2018 / 3:35 am

    Shoot, I’m the Procrastination Queen! I still have not made any resolutions yet and here you are with this wonderfully honest blog. I love the artwork, too. It made me smile and really get the whole idea. To be honest, I’m shy too but you’d never know it because I can have a real conversation with a stranger – speak to everybody – but freeze when I get in front of the podium. When it comes to you, my love, you seem to have it together. Look forward to future blog posts.

    • NM
      January 7, 2018 / 9:14 am

      Thank you for making me smile this morning ❤️

  11. January 7, 2018 / 12:24 pm

    Sounds to me like you’ve got some fantastic resolutions here, and great plans of action too. Personally, I want to be healthier and look after myself more. I like to always be changing and improving throughout the year and that is my resolution for this year too.

  12. January 7, 2018 / 3:14 pm

    I haven’t really made any resolutions this year, just focuses and goals. I do love how you identified the problem but then really thought about your solutions. Great read! x

  13. January 7, 2018 / 8:21 pm

    I feel like New Year Resolutions are done wrongly a lot of times…I prefer making conscious decisions whenever I need to than jumping into the band wagon…I also resolutions should be broken into smaller bits to make then achievable

  14. January 7, 2018 / 9:05 pm

    good post and very encouraging! i do not have long list of resolutions and that is how im able to achieve them, i keep it as realistic as possible!

  15. January 7, 2018 / 9:56 pm

    Lovely post! I love how you have good and thorough action plans and positive touch in these. I did quite many resolutions this year. I wish we both will do great with the resolutions. 🙂

  16. January 7, 2018 / 10:07 pm

    Looks like you have some pretty great resolutions and plans of actions to target them too – I really hope these plans work for you.

  17. January 8, 2018 / 12:06 am

    My plan of action for this year is just to carry on doing what makes me happy, and the rest will follow 😉 sounds like you have this year all marked out already! Hope all your dreams come true in 2018

  18. January 8, 2018 / 4:05 am

    Good luck to you on your journey. I never think that someone has to make resolutions and especially then same ones that everyone else does is not necessarily what fits you. I would like to work on my blog more and family more and even myself more. I would like to of course get more back from my blog, get my family more active more places and volunteer together, and for me more me time.

    • NM
      January 8, 2018 / 11:08 am

      Aww Rose that’s absolutely beautiful! I hope that it’s a successful year for you❤️

  19. January 8, 2018 / 4:54 am

    Great Post. I hope that you can continue to solve your problems and achieve your goals. Thanks for sharing.

  20. January 8, 2018 / 6:15 am

    A well written post. Meditation has always helped me tremendously to calm my mind and think positive. Glad it works for you too.

  21. January 8, 2018 / 10:48 am

    I hope that you can get to the bottom of where all this self-doubt comes from. Perhaps then you can understand it and make the most of the one life you have. All the best for 2018.

    • NM
      January 8, 2018 / 11:10 am

      Thank you so much Scots

  22. January 8, 2018 / 10:56 am

    Thanks for being so honest about your resolutions. Mine for this year aren’t quite as exciting as I want to get a new job, save money for when I decide to move and progress and develop my blog x

  23. January 8, 2018 / 12:59 pm

    Very honest post. You know I have difficulty losing weight since last year but I made a change. I think if you really motivate yourself, you can do it. I know you can! Keep fighting!

  24. January 8, 2018 / 1:56 pm

    I don’t usually have new year’s resolution as I’m not accomplishing one. It’s always been : losing weight. We just really have to push ourselves to do it. Yoga is also on my bucket list and been wanting to try. Good luck on your resolution and have a great year!

  25. January 8, 2018 / 2:52 pm

    Great post this. You’ve got some fantastic aims that I’m sure you will smash!

  26. January 8, 2018 / 3:05 pm

    Have a wonderful 2018 lovely. Negative self talk is such a dangerous thing, and it’s so easy to do! I’ve recently had to remind myself that I am worth so much more than I previously thought I was. So far, so good. Best of luck in your future x

  27. January 8, 2018 / 4:33 pm

    This post of resolutions is a beautiful piece of honest self-analysis. It really moved me because of your honesty, and probably because of how much of myself I recognise in what you write. Good luck with your goals.

    • NM
      January 8, 2018 / 5:03 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind words they mean so much ❤️

  28. Bobbi
    January 8, 2018 / 4:38 pm

    Making resolutions is not something that I do very well either. I am hoping to stick to a few goals and that’s about it.

  29. January 8, 2018 / 4:49 pm

    I have some new years resolutions but have not written them down yet. Trying my best to accomplish my short term goals this year. Thank you for your very honest post…I know it can be hard.

  30. January 8, 2018 / 5:12 pm

    I’m definitely looking to cut down (and hopefully avoid!) negative self-talk this year too.

  31. January 8, 2018 / 5:20 pm

    Love this post. Negative self talk can be the undoing of all of us! I learnt to squish this as soon as I could see this coming but it does take a lot of practice. Wishing you all the best for 2018 x

  32. January 8, 2018 / 6:22 pm

    I hope you achieve everything you’ve set for yourself this year. I have faith in you. Great post, with an in-depth analyzation of your personality.

  33. January 8, 2018 / 8:09 pm

    Ooo good luck with your resolutions! I tend to set goals as hate breaking resolutions.

  34. January 8, 2018 / 8:17 pm

    My mummy is very negative to herself as well 🙁 she need to stop this and stop focussing on all her mistakes and concentrate on the good x Its hard to train yourselves to have a positive outlook x

  35. January 8, 2018 / 8:30 pm

    I too focus on the negative and it can be a really difficult to get out of that loop. Well done for taking the time to think and set yourself these goals. I am sure you will smash them.

  36. January 8, 2018 / 9:07 pm

    I love the layout of this post and i am such a procrastinator that i havent even set any resolutions this year as i tend to want to break them all anyway! lol

  37. January 8, 2018 / 10:09 pm

    I know that 2017 was a hard year for you with your struggles with eating and self esteem, but I am hoping that 2018 will be a year that is full of positivity, healing and magical unicorns. I have to say to the whole idea of being ‘aloof’ because it is my way of protecting myself against others, especially with my trust issues but sometimes I do it because I need to be alone. As for my mind going into overdrive, I have anxiety so I hear you girl x

  38. January 8, 2018 / 10:18 pm

    An excellent and very honest post. I hope that in 2018 you will be a great year!

  39. January 8, 2018 / 11:33 pm

    I love your way of looking at resolutions, I have to admit I don’t really make any as I don’t keep them, now if I decide 1/2 way through the year I want to do something I often do but just because a year chances and I think i should for me it isn’t the right time.

  40. adriana
    January 9, 2018 / 1:49 am

    This is such a great post! I can totally relate, because I can be VERY lazy haha! Having a set plan of action is so important!

  41. January 9, 2018 / 2:03 am

    A lot of your resolutions are problems I struggle with myself. My confidence in myself is basically non-existent, and I do have a lot of self-talk. Some of my resolutions include on being a better, healthier version of myself. I want to do something at least once a month that pushes me out of my comfort zone, and makes me feel uncomfortable. Whether it’s as big as talking in front of a class comfortably-ish [good luck on your poetry reading by the way – you’ll do great!], or as small as answering a question in class, or making plans and sticking to them. I hope your new year is filled with happiness, good health, and success 🙂

    PS – I love that your sister’s friends support your blog so much! That’s awesome!

  42. January 9, 2018 / 2:07 am

    wishing a good year in 2018. I must say there are no resolutions only plans and goals for me in the new year

  43. January 9, 2018 / 3:55 am

    haha I am so lazy about resolutions too. I really don’t usually bother but this year calls for changes for me. You have picked some great ones, though! I love the images as well, they are beautiful!

  44. January 9, 2018 / 4:01 am

    I agree with you. A negative self-talk can be more problematic than any other self-created problems. With the habit of negative self-talk, you don’t need an enemy. So I am glad you will be working on that.

  45. January 9, 2018 / 5:04 am

    These are some wonderful resolutions for 2018. I also adore all of those paintings. So fantastic!

  46. January 9, 2018 / 6:41 am

    I’ve never seen or heard anyone use their new years resolutions to outline the problems and identify a way of changing them. What a great concept. Although I don’t think I could change mine as they are continuing habits. Good luck with everything you aspire to do differently

  47. January 9, 2018 / 11:51 am

    I never make resolutions either as I always break them, but I do have goals to achieve for 2018. Good luck

  48. January 9, 2018 / 1:40 pm

    Good luck with your resolutions. For someone who is a “lazy girl” I think you’ve made brave and difficult resolutions. Changing the way your brain thinks isn’t easy, and I think it’s ace how positive you’ve made the practice of making resolutions.

  49. January 9, 2018 / 3:12 pm

    I think these are all really admirable resolutions and i hope your game plan helps you achieve them!

  50. Sarah Ann
    January 9, 2018 / 8:35 pm

    I’d never come across your blog before and I’m so glad I did because I can relate to so much in this post from my own personal experiences (and some I still find difficult to talk about and share, so I admire you for that). I’ve set myself some ‘resolutions’ this year (if you can call them that) but it’s more about making changes in my life, however small, that make me happy and feel better about myself. I’m always so hard on myself, and I’d like to work changing that.

  51. January 9, 2018 / 10:54 pm

    yes! i’ve made myself smaller and more attainable goals for this year and it’s taken a lot of pressure off. everything is written at the beginning on my planner so i can see it every time i open it 🙂

  52. Brooke
    January 10, 2018 / 12:16 am

    Avoiding negative self-talk is so important! Positive thinking is important no matter what the situation: self, others, work, personal life, etc. Good luck with your new years resolutions!

  53. January 10, 2018 / 12:45 am

    I don’t have any resolution to make this year but I’ve make a few mini goals. It’s great that you’ve family friends to support your blog.

  54. January 10, 2018 / 8:10 am

    I love this guide!!!! Negative self talk is one of my big falls to. I love that you’re putting solutions too. Paul Cohello is one of my favourite authors so you had me at his quote! 🙂 x

  55. Kiwi
    January 10, 2018 / 8:56 am

    Great way to ease into a resolution for the year. I like the idea of yoga if you are in overdrive. No yoga for me but meditation works!

  56. January 10, 2018 / 9:23 am

    Sometimes I also do lot of negative self speaking which end up with sorrowful feelings around me.It is good that you reminded about such negative habits….

  57. Megan
    January 10, 2018 / 11:02 am

    These are some awesome resolutions! Avoiding negative self-talk is such a struggle to me aswell. So I can certainly relate to you on that one.

  58. January 10, 2018 / 1:10 pm

    I absolutely love your opening statement. “I am speaking out my goals into existence so that the Universe can hear them, grasp them, and conspire to make them happen.” My mom always told to speak my wants into existence and I live by that. I have some grand goals and small goals to achieve them. I am looking forward to all the excitement a new year bring.

  59. January 10, 2018 / 1:46 pm

    It sounds like you’ve put a lot of thought into your New Years Resolutions and your way of approaching them is really positive too. I hope you have a great 2018!

  60. Ingrid Rizzolo
    January 10, 2018 / 3:21 pm

    You mentioned that some people may see you as aloof. You know at first some people also feel I am aloof and they can become intimidated by me. I counter this by opening myself and being a little vulnerable and that usually adjusts their attitudes. The most important thing to know is that you are a nice person and let that counter any negative vibes that come your way. You are unique and special so embrace who you are. I hope you get overcome your eating disorder this year

  61. January 10, 2018 / 9:56 pm

    It’s so hard to stay positive all the time, negative thoughts are so different to turn around into something positive. I hope this year is as positive as possible

  62. Khushboo
    January 11, 2018 / 5:03 pm

    That’s a helpful guide for me too.. Thanks for sharing hope you have a wonderful new year..

  63. January 16, 2018 / 5:08 pm

    Great post. Not just for lazy girls helpful for anybody.

  64. January 16, 2018 / 7:15 pm

    I’m not for New Year resolutions but am a believer in always trying to improve oneself – learning and growing. Thanks for the share!

  65. January 17, 2018 / 2:07 pm

    This posts is so perfect for me!! This year I decided not to make any new year resolutions!!

  66. January 22, 2018 / 10:00 pm

    I love your way of looking at new year resolutions. I am the worst at keeping them, which is why i don’t even take them anymore! i hope 2018 will be good to you!

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